I’ve stayed away from making any comments about the current climate of sexual assault. It was a conscious decision, one I don’t regret at all, and had no intention of changing, that is until things got too close for comfort.
I’d recently heard that someone I’ve held in high regard has multiple accusations of sexual abuse against them.
(I will not be naming this person because that is not the point of this post and I don’t want to engage in a debate on the subject)
I’m heartbroken, as anyone would be.
What I’m surprised by is the other emotions that have surfaced.
I now have some clue of what people mean when they say, “They would never do this,” or “If this were true I would have known.” Etc.
I can honestly tell you from the bottom of my heart I would have never imagined this person would ever be accused, never mind have the accusations be found as credible.
It effects “other people.”
I thought I knew it didn’t just happen to “other people.”
My brain was wrong. I was wrong.
I’m included in “those other people.”
I understand that people want this person to go to prison, I would too if I could see this objectively without needing to remind myself that I should stay as objective as possible. I don’t want to see them go to prison but if that’s what the law calls for then that’s what needs to happen. How I (or anyone else) feel about the situation should not come into play.
Such acts, like some others, are unforgivable, and inexcusable.
I, also like most people, are wondering what the hell we’ve been a part of for so long.
How could this have happened?
How could it have stayed a secret for so long?
Why didn’t someone say something before now, and even if someone did than why didn’t someone else listen before now?
I can honestly tell you, and anyone else that may have their own doubts, that what you know of a person may not be the whole picture. They could have secrets, even not-so-secret secrets . The person you know may not be the same person other people know, even if they inhabit the same body.
Men (and women) are not infallible.